My mom used to say, "You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar." But do you really want more flies?
Okay, now that I have that out of my system, I just love these old bits of folk wisdom. Some of the smartest people I've known were not educated, not worldly, not even cool.
Here is what this saying means. You can get cooperation and support from people more easily by being nice and kind than by being confrontational.